You Feel: Concerned that people will notice you're not eating as much.
Tell Yourself: "So what? I'm entitled to eat however I please." And if someone wants to know why, you can say, "I'm trying to eat healthier," and change the subject.
You Feel: Rude for turning down a second helping.
Tell Yourself: "Taking care of my health is more important than pleasing the host."
You Feel: That you've been good and deserve a treat.
Tell Yourself: "Every decision I make about food counts. I can find other ways to celebrate a special occasion."
You Feel: Everyone is staring at you, pressuring you to eat.
Tell Yourself: "Be strong—smart eating is more important than everyone's approval." Follow that with a firm, "No, thanks." Repeat if necessary.
Suzette Glasner-Edwards, PhD, is a clinical psychologist and researcher at UCLA.