How Positive Self-Talk Can Get You Through Tough Times
Put your hand on your heart
"As humans, we respond to warmth and physical touch, and sometimes the body responds before the mind does," says Neff. "A loving gesture can calm you enough to talk yourself through a bad moment."
Referring to yourself in the second person—for instance, "You're allowed to be stressed, but you're going to be okay"—helps you step outside the situation, Neff says.
Try a nickname
"Call yourself by a term of endearment, like honey. Yes, it feels weird at first. But it also evokes the sense that you're being cared for by a loving friend," says Neff. And honey, nobody needs to know but you.