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Sometimes you think you need your friends to agree with you and completely understand everything you say. But this isn't true. Validation isn't perfect, but a caring ear will help no matter what. When you are talking about how bad things are, make sure to indicate you know you are complaining and you value her support. For example, try this: "I know I've been complaining a lot, but I wanted to just talk with you because I value your support." Validate your validator. Your friends need to know that you know they care. Also, make sure to take turns—yield the floor to your friend to discuss anything on her mind. This gives your friend a chance to be heard, because chances are she also needs support.

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