For this family, a cultural divide opened up at the dinner table. "Chinese people often eat family-style—big plates with everyone picking up food with chopsticks," says Jasmine, O, The Oprah Magazine's executive fashion editor. Her husband, a stage-lighting technician, was raised by a strict Welsh mother and Scottish father who belonged to the "clean plate" club. So when their daughters (now 15 and 8) asked for food from their mother's plate, John said, "Not till you finish what's in front of you."
After 25 years together and a slew of dinnertime compromises, Jasmine says of her husband, "I have always loved John's spirit. He has his own ideas about everything, from society to work to money. I didn't marry a 'European' man. I married a man who can think for himself."