Treat Your Daughter As an Adult - Too Close for Comfort Excerpt

An Excerpt from Too Close for Comfort? Questioning the Intimacy of Today's New Mother-Daughter Relationship

Treat Your Daughter as an Adult

By Linda Perlman Gordon and Susan Morris Shaffer
Original Content | September 16, 2009

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Try to work problems out collaboratively.
Value her advice.
Respect her capabilities.
Share more of what is going on in your life without burdening her.
If you are feeling unappreciated, explain to your daughter how you want your relationship to change.
Be clear in your intentions and continue to model the behavior you would like your daughter to emulate.
Agree to disagree when resolution doesn't seem imminent to maintain communication.
Accept that "mother doesn't always know best." Let her be.

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Excerpted from Too Close for Comfort? Questioning the Intimacy of Today's New Mother-Daughter Relationship by Linda Perlman Gordon and Susan Morris Shaffer © 2009 by Linda Perlman Gordon and Susan Morris Shaffer. Excerpted by permission of The Berkley Publishing Group, a division of Penguin Group (USA) Inc. All rights reserved. No part of this excerpt may be reproduced or reprinted without permission in writing from the publisher.