Be the Grandmother, Not the Mother - Too Close For Comfort Excerpt

An Excerpt from Too Close for Comfort? Questioning the Intimacy of Today's New Mother-Daughter Relationship

Be the Grandmother, Not the Mother

By Linda Perlman Gordon and Susan Morris Shaffer
Original Content | September 16, 2009

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Encourage, support, and, once again, bite your tongue!
Continue to nurture your daughter. Being a new mother is very stressful.
Provide a comforting and friendly ear.
Provide kind and reassuring attention.
Assist and help when you can.
Speak up if you see a threat to your grandchild's safety. At times your advice will be welcome. But you may have to remind yourself from time to time that you've had your turn!
Enjoy your grandchildren!

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Excerpted from Too Close for Comfort? Questioning the Intimacy of Today's New Mother-Daughter Relationship by Linda Perlman Gordon and Susan Morris Shaffer © 2009 by Linda Perlman Gordon and Susan Morris Shaffer. Excerpted by permission of The Berkley Publishing Group, a division of Penguin Group (USA) Inc. All rights reserved. No part of this excerpt may be reproduced or reprinted without permission in writing from the publisher.