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An Excerpt from Too Close for Comfort? Questioning the Intimacy of Today's New Mother-Daughter Relationship
Be the Grandmother, Not the Mother

  • Encourage, support, and, once again, bite your tongue!
  • Continue to nurture your daughter. Being a new mother is very stressful.
  • Provide a comforting and friendly ear.
  • Provide kind and reassuring attention.
  • Assist and help when you can.
  • Speak up if you see a threat to your grandchild's safety. At times your advice will be welcome. But you may have to remind yourself from time to time that you've had your turn!
  • Enjoy your grandchildren!
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