A few days later, Toby and his fiancée, Leah, traveled to South Korea to meet Toby's biological father. As cameras flashed, Toby's father, Kim Jae-su, walked into the room. "I just didn't know what to do, so I just threw my arms around him and gave him a big hug," Toby says. "He started crying, and he kept saying, 'I'm sorry. I'm sorry.' I just held him tighter."
While the father and son don't share a common language, Toby practiced one phrase in Korean to say to his dad: "We've been waiting a long time, father."
Toby says while it was a little uncomfortable at first, he quickly felt a strong connection to Kim Jae-su. "He started talking about when I used to ride on his shoulders," he says. "He told me that I liked to copy what my mother was doing, so one day he came home and I had lipstick all over my face."
Perhaps the biggest moment for Toby was finally learning how he was separated from his family. "My father told me that my mother had lost me in an open-air market," Toby says. Though Kim Jae-su says he searched for Toby at police stations and orphanages, he never found him. It turns out police had taken Toby to an orphanage far from his family's home.
Toby has not met his biological mother, as she and Kim Jae-su have split up and both remarried. But Toby did get a big surprise—he has a little brother he didn't even know about! "He's about five years younger than I am, and he's so much fun to be around," Toby says. "It's so weird to be an older brother to this kid that I never even imagined having."
"I really felt like this big piece, this huge mystery in my life had been put back together," Toby says.