During my lectures and workshops, I often hear people complain that they're not feeling supported by others. They might be upset with their work colleagues, families or friends, but whatever the circumstances, they've all slipped into victim mode by resenting others for their lack of support. Rather than commiserate with these folks, I flash the universal mirror at them and ask, "Are you supporting yourself?" Typically they respond with a weepy reply of "No, I’m not."

You see, the way we experience the world around us is a direct reflection of the world within us. If our thoughts and energy are not supportive, then our life won't be supported. Therefore, we must take responsibility by consciously supporting ourselves in every given moment.

Whenever you're in a time of need and feel unsupported or alone, immediately ask yourself, "How can I support myself more?" Then take action. Simple right actions toward self-support can greatly change your attitude and experience. Say something kind to yourself, consciously think an empowering thought about yourself or ask someone for help.

We often think that people should be able to read our minds and simply "know" when we need support, but they can't. The people in our lives have their own struggles and challenges, and they may not see ours, especially if we appear to be holding it together. Ultimately, asking for help is a radical act of self-support. One of the biggest ways we don't support ourselves is by not asking for support. Asking can take courage, but the reward is immense. Not only will you receive the support you need, you'll deepen your relationship with whomever you're asking.

These small right actions can greatly enhance your life in an instant. Making the simple shift from being a powerless victim to a strong person who can care for yourself can change your life forever.

Gabrielle Bernstein is the author of Miracles Now: 108 Life-Changing Tools for Less Stress, More Flow, and Finding Your True Purpose (from which this article is an excerpt) and May Cause Miracles: A 40-Day Guidebook of Subtle Shifts for Radical Change and Unlimited Happiness.


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