How to Help Your Children Be Free of Stress and Anxiety
When I learned my voice was going to be used in an animated Pixar film, it reminded me that we are, in fact, all still children inside, striving as adults to be all the things we want for our kids. While our entire world seems to be anxiety-ridden these days, I offer the following suggestions I wrote to parents 25 years ago, the children of whom likely have their own kids today. See if they work in your efforts with children, regardless of their ages, and even with yourself, since you too have a child inside who wants to come out and enjoy life.
First: Just relax!
Next: Examine your own stresses
Next: Give children alone time
Next: Explain to your children that it's not all about winning
Next: Let children set their own goals
Why it's important to raise no-limit children
Living is not a race; it is a journey, something to be enjoyed each day. You can do a great deal to help children to understand this important truth, and you will get a nice bonus as well—that is, a lot less anxiety for yourself as part of the bargain.
Some time ago, my mother wrote me the following poem that summarizes beautifully the feeling I want to convey to anyone involved in a child's life.
A mother can but guide ...
then step aside—I knew
I could not say, "This is the way
that you should go."
For I could not forsee
what paths might beckon you
to unimagined heights
that I might never know.
Yet, always in my heart
That you would touch a star . . .
I'm not surprised!
— Hazel Dyer
You can help your own children to touch their own stars if you follow that important advice. Guide, then step aside.
Dr. Wayne Dyer is the co-author of four children's books, the most recent titled, No Excuses (Hay House). His voice can be heard in the new Pixar film Day & Night, released June 18 with Toy Story 3.
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