Gary and Tina

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Tina's mother, Victoria, says she realized her daughter was hurting but never talked about it with her. "I've always had the guilt of just not being there when I should have been," she says.

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Terry says he eventually realized how his broken promises were affecting Tina. "I would pick her up, and she just didn't want to be with me anymore. She felt like I wasn't going to always be there for her."

Gary says telling a child you'll be there for them and not following through feels like rejection for the child. "It causes such trust issues. You don't trust your environment if you can't trust the people who love you the most," Gary says. "What does that say to trusting your spouse one day? Trusting others that you should be able to trust? It's so hurtful. It takes a lot of work to overcome."