If you or someone you know is in an abusive relationship, Lisa recommends documenting the abuse. "If somebody's hurting you or raping you, you need to keep a journal and keep it in a safe place," she says.
Also, if someone rapes you—whether it's your husband or boyfriend—Lisa says you should go to the hospital within 48 hours and request a rape kit. "There are trained nurses, sexual assault nurse examiners. They know how to do evidence collection," she says. "[If you go to trial,] you need to have the documentation from the hospital."
Even if the victim is not ready to press charges, Lisa suggests they fill out a police report and find a safe place to go.
"Every time, a perpetrator is going to say, 'She wanted it.' They use a consent defense, and they need to show you did not consent," she says. "You have a right to say no."
Find out how to create an escape plan. To find help in your area, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at
800-799-SAFE.
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