"Oprah & Eckhart Tolle: A New Earth" Chapter 8 guest Peter Wearing from Phoenix, Arizona

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Peter from Phoenix, Arizona
Peter was a smoker for more than 30 years when he read A New Earth. Using the lessons in Chapter 8, he had already been smoke-free for 11 weeks when he spoke with Eckhart and Oprah.

"I had run out of cigarettes," Peter said. "I thought I had to go to the store, but when the craving came, I said, 'Okay, let's be with the craving. Let's feel it. What does it actually feel like?' Usually we just react, and I actually sat there, closed my eyes and felt it, and it started to dissolve."

Peter continued to use Eckhart's teachings to dissolve his cravings completely. However, when Peter tried to use the same technique on other desires, such as food, television or alcohol, he was not able to have the same success. He wanted to know why.

Eckhart explained that while some addictions and cravings dissolve quickly, other old patterns take longer.

"It does not mean that every time awareness meets the pattern that awareness is going to win," Eckhart said. "'Win' may not be the right word because awareness, of course, is never fighting anything. Awareness just is there as a conscious presence."

Peter admitted that while he was able to bring awareness to combat his desire or urges for a period of time, he would always break down eventually. Eckhart responded by saying that that didn't mean that Peter had lost; it was just that his desire was very strong. Sometimes, he said, if it got too strong, he would have a drink, and the next time, he could just bring his awareness to it again.

"Don't expect perfection. Don't expect you to be the perfect human being who never touches a drink again," Eckhart said.

Find out how Peter is doing today...