Joanne Fleisher says that Internet chat rooms are full of people struggling to come to terms with their lives. "It happens so much that people don't even realize. I mean, I am active on the Internet, I have a website, and it is just jumping with people who are married and [don't know] what to do."

In an e-mail to The Oprah Show a viewer wrote:

"I've been married for over 25 years. I had a lesbian affair with a woman that lasted nearly three years. I cannot bring myself to tell my husband the truth. We have a comfortable marriage, but I've never experienced true passionate love or even hot animal lust. I'm bitter over knowing that I will probably live the rest of my life just as I am now. Don't misunderstand, I love my husband. I'm not in love with my husband. And I never have been. I guess my destiny is to live the rest of my life as a closeted lesbian."

"I just would say to anybody, whatever secret you're holding, live your own truth," says Oprah. "Life is really short."

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