Audience members describe their relationships.

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Are you in a spiritual partnership? The first step to finding out, Gary says, is to write down five words that describe your marriage. If you're not married, describe the relationship that you're in right now.

Be as honest as you can—don't write down words that describe what you wish it would be. Ask your partner to do the same thing. "It will start a very interesting conversation," Oprah says.