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Ask Steve Harvey: How Do I Ask Him Whether We're in a Relationship?

Season 4 Episode 409
Aired on 09/14/2014 | CC tv-14
Rai is a take-charge woman when it comes to her career and business, but she says she struggles with the right way to ask the man she's been dating for four months to define their relationship. "I've been introduced as his friend," she says. "How would I go about engaging him in having these conversations about what's next for us and still allowing him to be the man and making him feel as if he is, you know, figuring out the plan for us?"

Steve Harvey, author of the best-selling relationship book Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man, says Rai needs to get one thing straight before she even starts the conversation: "You have every right to know where this is going every step of the way," he says. "This is your life. You don't just sit in the car and let some guy drive you through life."

In the video above, Steve reveals the three things men do when they're in a relationship, explains why women really have the power in those relationships, and, finally, outlines how Rai can start the conversation.

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