A Spoonful of Perfect
My mother took her rice seriously. Whether it was short-grain or medium, California or Japanese, mochi or brown, while we were growing up she made sure we had it every day. “If I don't have my bowl of rice,” she said once, “I still feel hungry no matter what else I eat.”
I, on the other hand, was a child who was careless with rice. Blasting the raw grains under the kitchen faucet, then heedlessly dumping the cloudy water, I lost handfuls of our meal down the drain.
“Rinse more carefully!” she would scold when it was my turn to wash rice. “You're wasting too much!”
“Why the fuss?” I grumbled. “It's just rice.” To me rice was cheap and plentiful; for only a few dollars we could buy a bag the size of my little sister.
“You kids don't know how lucky you are, rice every day,” my mother grumbled, ready to launch into one of her wartime-in-Korea stories. “When I was little, many times we went to bed hungry. You can't even imagine what some people would do for a handful of rice.” My mother nudged me aside and grabbed a fistful of wet rice. “Every grain is important,” she said, holding the rice to my face. “Every grain meant that someone could eat and live that day.”
She dipped her hand back into the rice pot and scrubbed at the pellets under the water. Massaging the rice until the water looked like skim milk, she continued: “Take your time. Take care of the rice,” she said, carefully pouring out the cloudy water, her fingers cradling the lip of the pot to hold back any floating grain. “It's like taking care of yourself.”
After washing the rice three times, then rinsing three times, my mother filled the pot for the seventh time—the number of heaven—to boil the rice. She measured the water with her middle finger, the knuckles her ruler, and each time her rice came out perfect: sticky but not mushy, chewy but not crunchy.
Whenever my family visits my mother's home, we are greeted at the doorway by the scent of rice. “Are you hungry?” my mother will ask, bustling to the door. Before she hugs us, before she says how much she has missed her grandchildren, she'll offer food, telling us to sit and eat a bowl of rice.
The last time we had a family get-together at my brother's house, my mother, as usual, made the rice. While she was turning on the water to wash it, my youngest daughter dragged a stool up to the sink.
“I want to help, Halmoni,” she demanded. She climbed onto the seat and kneeled over the basin to plunge her hands into the cold water.
“Like this,” my mother cooed, placing her hand over my daughter's, guiding her fingers as they wiggled into the submerged rice.
My 12-year-old nephew, watching from the dining table, said, “I remember once my mom made the most perfect rice.” His voice was wistful, nostalgic, as if recalling a lost love.