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2. Fraser writes, "I was more intent on competing with the men I found interesting than eventually marrying one of them, which may have been an unfortunately ripple effect of seventies-era feminism, or just bad timing." What do you think? How much of a role has history played in shaping Fraser's relationships (and the relationships of women of her generation)? How would things have been different if she had been born 25 years earlier?
3. Martha Borst, the corporate guru, urges her clients to embrace a philosophy of "accountability"—taking responsibility for everything that happens for you. Do you agree with this philosophy? How does it help Fraser deal with her rape?
4. Fraser was happy in San Miguel de Allende when she visited it as a child. Why is it important for her to return to a place where she was happy as a child? What part of herself is she reconnecting with?
5. One of the issues Fraser deals with in the book is her impulsiveness. Although the decision to make an offer on the house is not premeditated, how is it different from other impulsive decisions Fraser has made in the past?
6. What does owning her own house mean to Fraser? Why is it important emotionally? What enables her finally to make the move? Can you create a home for yourself in another country? What does the idea of "home" mean to you?
7. Fraser includes many descriptions of food and meals in the book. She reveals herself to be someone who has had a troubled relationship with food in the past, including bulimia. What do you think about her current relationship with food? Is it healthy?
8. Many exotic locales—Rwanda, Samoa, Italy, Argentina—are featured in this memoir. Which descriptions are most vivid? Which place would you most like to visit? Why?
9. Fraser is often self-deprecating, and describes herself as impatient, judgmental and hard. "I always say what's on my mind, even when my mind isn't fully engaged," she says. How would you describe Laura?
10. Fraser believes her mother "did eventually manage to have it all" with a 50-year marriage, children, a career. Do you agree? Do you think Fraser is managing to "have it all?" She struggles between cozy domesticity and the lure of adventure and travel. Do you struggle between those two ways of living? Would you trade places with Fraser? Do you think can "have it all" yourself, and if not, what sacrifices have you made?
11. Fraser believes she was meant to be a writer. She says she was handed "gifts of language and communication" and she has a responsibility "to use them to benefit others, to bring darkness to light, to illuminated circumstances that otherwise might be left hidden, unnoticed, and unexplained." What dark corners do you think she's illuminated in this memoir?
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