The solitary life is suitable for very few people; the vast majority prefer social connections. We all have them, but are yours the kind that fulfill you emotionally? If not, then the whole value of relationship is being missed. Proximity isn’t the same as bonding. There is a sliding scale for bonding, from least to most intimate, which is as follows:
- I have nice friends and enjoy their company.
- I have at least one close friend in whom I can confide; this friend is like a part of me.
- I am bound with a loved one in a deeply personal relationship. We have our own private world together.
- I have someone in my life who inspires me. I feel bigger and better in their presence.
- I am on a deep spiritual path, and someone as dedicated as I am walks beside me.
- I feel blessed to be in the presence of the divine, which I feel through everyone I meet.
Once you find the right context, build upon it. Relationships exist for the purpose of mutual fulfillment. If they exist for other reasons—status, financial security, feeling wanted, meeting the social norm—you can certainly be happy, perhaps for a long time. However, that’s not the same as being true to yourself deep down and allowing intimacy to move into the region of the soul.
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