Think through each option and its consequences 10 minutes, 10 months, and 10 years down the road
. This way, says Suzy Welch in her book The 10-10-10 Rule
, you'll gain emotional distance, or "deliberation where there is only instinct." Stay in your flawed relationship or leave it? Have another baby? Eat a cheeseburger? Compare the implications with your innermost values, dreams and goals, Welch writes. Then ask yourself the burning question: "Which decision will best help me create a life of my own making?"