— Jean F., Chesapeake, Virginia
When someone says, "I'm depressed," usually a reason follows, but your letter is quite guarded. You only reveal that you struggle with negative thoughts and want reassurance that you will be okay—this implies a state of insecurity, self-doubt and feeling unsafe. Why do you fear you won't be okay?
The answer to that lies within you, so the first step is to look at yourself closely in the mirror and find an answer you can trust. For example:
- I'm stuck in a bad situation.
- Someone else is controlling me.
- I feel powerless to change my circumstances.
- I feel like a victim.
- I feel that I will never succeed.
- I am in drastic lack.
- I have had mood difficulties for a long time but can't seem to figure out why.
- Bad circumstances and situations that make you feel trapped can be changed. If you have to, you should walk away until you land somewhere safer.
- If someone else is controlling your life, you need to reclaim it for yourself.
- If you feel like a failure or hopeless, you need to address issues of self-esteem.
- If your moods turn negative for no reason you can find, a doctor's care is indicated.
Next question: How do I support a friend who needs help but doesn't want it?
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