The loving parts of your personality have no trouble loving. That is all they do. You experience the loving parts of as gratitude, appreciation, caring, patience, contentment and awe of life. They are polar opposites of the frightened parts of your personality. They are interested in other people. They love other people. They are interested in you, and they love you, too. When you experience a loving part of your personality, you love other people and yourself.
The question is: How can you have the experiences of a loving part of your personality when a frightened part of your personality is active? The first step is to distinguish the loving parts of your personality that are active from the frightened parts of your personality that are active—in other words, to learn to distinguish love from fear in you. The second step is to choose love, no matter what. When you choose love again and again, even when the frightened parts of your personality are active (for example, you are angry, jealous, in despair, etc.), the frightened parts lose their power. They still come, and they still hurt, and they still have no interest in other people or you, but they no longer control you.
Each time you choose not to act on a frightened part of your personality, you create authentic power—and you grow spiritually. The frightened parts of your personality come less frequently and with less intensity, and the loving parts fill more and more of your consciousness. Eventually the frightened parts of your personality lose their sway over you entirely, and only the loving parts remain. When this happens, jealousy, resentment, inferiority, superiority, are no longer obstacles to your spiritual growth. They are opportunities for it! They are broad avenues that lead to exactly where you want to go, to fulfillment and joy, awareness and freedom—if you choose to take them. The hardest times to choose love become the very times that you can most grow spiritually. In fact, they are the only times you can grow spiritually!
To learn more about how to use the hardest times to choose love, visit SeatoftheSoul.com and read The Seat of Soul. You can send questions to me at firstname.lastname@example.org, and I will answer them on my website.
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