The talk shouldn't only be about STD prevention and pregnancy, Dr. Berman says. It's also about empowerment—and Dr. Berman says the conversation needs to include pleasure and self-stimulation. "You don't want her to have sex right now. ... But you eventually want her to have a fulfilling, happy, loving, intimate sex life," she says. "When the time comes, she's that much more likely to make those healthy decisions since she feels good about who she is as a sexual person and not just give away that gift to anybody—the first time or any time."