Oprah: I went through [divorce] with other friends. Do you have the "if onlys?" If only I had….
Uma: Of course. I'm riddled by them. And I'm not wrong—there are a lot of "if onlys" that are probably really true. … I think to be honest with yourself, you have to accept that.
Oprah: Are you ready to forgive yourself for the "if onlys?"
Uma: I'm not sure yet if that's the right move.
Oprah: Would you want to reconcile [with Ethan]?
Uma: I couldn't answer that question. I don't even know. I want to recognize him again. I want to see the guy that I married. I want to trust him and I want to feel good and comfortable again.
Oprah: I heard a definition many years ago: "Forgiveness is giving up the hope that the past could have been any different." Isn't that a great definition? It just means that when you know better, you do better. If you had known better at that time you would have done better.
Uma: I do believe I did my best in the moment. … Don't you wish your best was better?