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Cheryl gained 40 pounds after her daughter was born prematurely, leaving her feeling angry, depressed and unmotivated. Since coming to terms with her frustrations, she says she's adopted a more positive attitude and has lost 21 pounds. After taking time to care for and appreciate herself, Cheryl says her husband has begun appreciating her more, too.

The hardest part of the process for Cheryl has been taking responsibility for her behavior. "It's so easy to just sit back and have a pity party," she says. "I had to take a step back and say, 'You know what? This isn't anyone else's problem—this is my problem.'"

Dr. Robin says that resting when you're tired, taking time to do things you want to do, such as exercise, and nurturing yourself are important parts of reclaiming your identity. "The word that comes to me is 'boldness,'" says Dr. Robin. "As you're launching your comeback, [you're] inviting a bold woman to grow herself up in [you]."
FROM: Have You Let Yourself Go? Part 2: The Big Question: Who Am I?
Published on April 13, 2006