Tell yourself you will no longer assign blame for the action.
Recall what the incident felt like at the time. Feel it in your body.
Put an emotion to that feeling. Was it anger? Fear? Sadness?
Write down what happened in the incident in the first person, then write it down as the other person. Finally, write it down as an objective 3rd person.
Look at the person next to you and share your story, or share it with someone you trust.
Tear (or burn) up that paper.
Stand up and celebrate the release. Maybe do a little dance.
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