According to Rabbi Shmuley, competition exploits human insecurity and makes you feel like you have to prove yourself in comparison to others. Some parents mistakenly believe competition makes their children more disciplined and more focused, but Rabbi Shmuley says when they're in a hyper-competitive environment, they feel as though they're always measured and made to feel not good enough.
There are two kinds of ambitious people, Rabbi Shmuley says: the "zeros," who believe, "I'm a nothing," and the "ones," who believe, "I was born with real potential."
Rabbi Shmuley offers these tips to parents who want to raise confident children who aren't over competitive:
"Excessive competitiveness in children fosters insecurity and teaches a child that only champions are special. What children need to hear is the opposite. He or she is unique based on the gifts they have to offer rather than on their ability to outperform their peers. Their friends are not their competitors but their companions. We dare not ultimately see other people as rivals, but as members of the same team."
Published on June 03, 2008