I am not married-of course i am only 19(on October 17th). What iwanted to say is i have watched my parents' marriage crumble and i was wondering to myself if my dad asks himself why he got married...i know my mom does! I would love to watch this show but being in Zimbabwe...it will only be aired in 3-8minths from the time it is aired in America! I can only watch it if our DSTV(cable...i think) is paid for. Oh, well, if i don't see it i'm sure i won't but i know it will off the hook! PS: i wonder if i will ever ask myself-'why did i get married?'...probably-history does indeed repeat itself.

Being in a relationship for a little over 10 years... is that marriage? I think so! We're got the same ups and downs. So why am i here? I'm here in this relationship because I believe that no matter how many obsticles we encounter, life is about working through it all. So why not stick it out, put up a good fight and give it your best til the end. Everyday is a one more to day to learn more, live more, and love more!

When I do get married... that would be my answer to Why Did I Get Married?

A better question is Why AM I getting married. I believe too many people don't even think of the consequences of marriage before they rush to the altar. All they can think of is the wedding. It's like wanting to have a baby and not thinking that that sweet little innocent bundle of joy will one day be a teenager. I wish there were a program to teach people how to get along with each other. I think it starts in the home. My parents had a great marriage, full of ups and downs and not perfect but it taught me about respect and acceptance of your spouse. I hope to have that one day...when Tyler's ready to settle down. Be blessed.

When I got married in 1974 all my friends had either gone off to college or were married themselves. I felt it was the next step for me, especially since my father told me that if I had slept with him I had better marry him since no one else would ever want me. Being naive at the time, I believed him. After all, he was my father, he wouldn't lie to me. While walking down the aisle I was wondering how long until the divorce. Nine years, 2 children and much physical and emotional abuse later we were divorced. After the divorce I had mentioned that discussion to my mother. She was floored. She hated my ex-husband and never wanted me to marry him. At that point she threatened to punch my dad in the mouth...lol. Of course he denied the conversation...but I remember it like it was yesterday. Needless to say, I no longer go to my father for any advise....and I remain singe.

I'm getting married next year and I'm looking forward to it! I've been with my fiance for the past 5 years and I can say he's been consistent and hasn't "flipped the script". Now, don't get me wrong - NO relationship is drama free but I can honestly say our's is minimal. I finally found my soulmate.

I ask myself this at least once a month. Marriage is a lot harder than I thought it was going to be. It's not the fairytale life that I dreamed and I don't know how to be happy with what I have.

Sorry that does not constitute a marriage. It's someone you have let in your space for whatever reason and allowed them to stay there for 10 long YEARS. It's worse if you are not married but living like you are....you rob that person of the opportunity to develop emotionally with you because you have given them everything they want without having to be obligated to a marriage. Do you honestly think you will be marrying this person after 10yrs? When should we expect the wedding...in another 10 years?

Well, I have been married for 14 years and I must say that I really did not think it was going to be like this. but I absolutely adore my husband and my daughter and I am working very hard to make it what what we both want and what will make us happy. A great releationship requires work and compromise. You need to accept that it is not always 50/50 you have to be able to give more at times when needed just as he will have to step up and do the same. Love is great thing but it needs to nurtured. I do believe it is possible. I think sometimes it is quicker to judge or blame your partner for what is lacking in the relationship when in reality it is a 2 way street. I am in it for the long hall and I have amazing faith in God that he will carry me through the tough times. My husband is the love of my life and I want to grow old with him. I still believe that marital bliss is real!!!!!

I know its probably horrible to say but besides being in love and all that jazz, the main reason i got married was to get out of the house. I didn't have a bad home life or anything, my parents were just very over protective and i wanted to start living life for my own approval and on my own terms (I guess I forgot I would still have to answer to my husband). Marriage is nothing like I thought it would be, it is a lot more work and sacrifice than I had originally planned, and getting married at 19 didnt help my situation. I was always the girl with the plan, and the wedding was then incorporated into the plan (somewhere between the Fall and Spring semesters), i soon realized i had to make a lot of room for the actual marriage. But to be completely honest I dont regret it, because if I was still living at home in my small town, the dream of my life now wouldnt even exist. I am so very happy and even my relationship with my parents is better. Hopefully 10-20 years from now I will still be this happy, my mom is so I know its possible.

Well, I am not married, nor am I in a relationship. ( But I have been engaged so I have been through the motions) I would be classified as one of those women who could really care less about the whole idea of getting married, at this point in time. And I will clarify b/c I know that if I meet the right man, that could change.
One thing I have thought long and hard about though is the fact that one the last successful marriages I have witnessed was my Grandparents. I think of the time they grew up in. My grandfather was a farmer, grandmother a homemaker. THey had their seperate duties that fit together to make a family life work. They had to. THey had 4 kids to take care of. And it is still like that now-a-days to an extent. But I think people are more likely to settle for thier partner for the wrong reasons. Or expect them to have wealth, be well endowed, good looks, emotionally available and attentive. I think people get married so easily b/c they know they have an easy way out. So now the concept of marriage isn't this grand fairy tale vision that girls have when thier young. Its this watered down remake that isnt sacred anymore. There are more expectations, more prescriptions, more health issues, more infidelity, more porn, more distractions, more taxes... more more more more. No wonder we are ....where we are.
As far as some of my close friends parents... they have learned to accept thier partner. My friends mother said..." He has never been the type hold my hand when we walked side by side. Yes I would love it if he held my hand more often. But when he does... I know then most of all... that he really likes me." ANd that clued me into how much we focus on the negative. Fix this, fix that.... fix fix fix cure cure cure.
You can also love someone and not like them. But I think so many people confuse love with being comfortable. I did. I think people get married thinking that it is thier last opportunity b/c tomorrow 15 years will have passed and they will be a bitter episode of Sex in the City. A spinster. To wed...or not to wed.

Why?? Because not only am I in love with him, I LIKE him!

Well, I'm not married but I wish to be!! The question: Why Did I Get Married? My reasoning would be that the person is my bestfriend in the world and I love him and want to spend the rest of my life with this person, that God allowed me to meet. This would be why I got married. Have a blessed day and enjoy God's Blessing!! Love Monica

Well, not only did I get married once, but twice. I'm perfectly aware of the reasons I got married the first time, and boy - were they all wrong! I wouldn't trade it for the world though, because it led me to marry for all the right reasons the second time. I married because my husband completes me. He makes my quality of life better. Not only does he have the characteristics most women would want, such as being honest, respectful, generous, a great father, he and I shared a much deeper connection. I knew that he was the only person in the world other than my children that I would lay down my life for. I knew didn't want to live without him. He is my best friend and not once in our marriage have I asked myself, "Why did I get married?" I am constantly reminded by all the wonderful things we do for each other and our family. We are the real deal and not a day goes by that I don't recognize it and thank God for this second chance that has made me happier than I ever dreamed possible.

I got married because I wanted to be with a partner in life, someone to share with & do everything with till we die. Once I found him I knew he was the one & it was great from then on. I love being married - to the one I married. We knew after a few weeks that we loved each other & wanted only each other. We married 2 years later, & now have been together 13 years. It is wonderful. I don't find that I have to "work" at it...it is easy because we are a very good match, excellent partners. We like to have, do & experience the same things so there is very little sacrafice (besides Monday night football kinda stuff!). We can count on each other & share most everything. We now have a beautiful son from this union. I don't ever want to be without him.

Why did I get married? Well, we got married because I got pregnant, or he got me pregnant. Who's ever fault it is, I think it was God's way of bringing us together. Today is our 8 year anniversary and I couldn't be happier. We met in May, got pregnant in July and got married on October 2nd, 1999. He's the most amazing man I know!