Step 4: ...And ask for blessings.
Seek advice and encouragement from the people who know and love you best. "For the most part, our family and friends want to give us permission to change," says life coach Debbie Ford, coauthor with Deepak Chopra and Marianne Williamson of The Shadow Effect. "So ask for it. Maybe they want to be adventurous along with you."

Step 5: Think holistic.
Getting your pilot's license, learning Mandarin, or planning a trip around the world might feel like all the excitement you need. But if you search for little bursts of surprise in other areas of your life, Moore says, "you create an entire mind-set for change"—exactly what the adventurer needs. "Finding novel sensations in the everyday hits a mental reset button," adds Kashdan. "It recharges your batteries, so you have more energy for bigger challenges." It could be as easy as "trying a new cuisine, a new route home, or a new position in bed," says Temple University professor Frank Farley, PhD, who studies risktaking. Bonus: People who are most open to change are also the most resilient in the face of setbacks, Farley says.

Step 6: Find comfort in discomfort.
"Remember, it's supposed to hurt; you're supposed to feel sore," says Ford. She's not talking about just the physical aches and pains of the couch potato turned triathlon competitor, but also the mental and emotional uneasiness of the would-be CEO or aspiring artist. "Accept that you'll never get rid of self-doubt," Kashdan says. "An adventurous person will always have moments of feeling like a fraud—it's a sign that you're creating new roles for yourself, that you're evolving. It means you're doing great, passionate work."

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