Why Freedom Is Inside of You
Yet, does your independence and freedom bring you any more happiness than the lack of it? We have visited many poverty-stricken countries and found immense happiness and freedom in the people, even though their physical lives were filled with hardship beyond measure. We have been in places where Deb had to wear a headscarf and long sleeves, where bare ankles are seen as more provocative than a bare midriff or where we had to be very careful of what we said. But always the genuine smiles and laughter that greeted us were overwhelming.
We are not saying that other cultures are freer than ours, but we constantly find ourselves coming back to asking: How do those of us in the land of the free actually find and express our freedom?
People tend to have a limited idea of what freedom means. There is a myth that freedom is unattainable, that it lies somewhere ahead of you, or that once you have done this and achieved that, then you can be free. And, yet, so often, as soon as this first obstacle is out of the way and freedom is looming close, another obstacle immediately comes along to delay it once more!
We were teaching a workshop outside of London when Marie told us she was very happy to be with us and was learning a great deal, but she knew she could not be at peace until her daughter was. She didn't get it until we shared that by first discovering your own inner peace, then you can help others to find theirs.
There is also the myth that happiness, independence and freedom are contingent on favorable external circumstances. Yet, you only have to look at examples, such as some of the Tibetan refugee prisoners held in jail by the Chinese for many years in the most atrocious of conditions, who later emerged from their captivity in a state of inner peace and tranquility to see that the freedom you really need to be talking about is not one that is dependent on external conditions, but is the freedom within you, regardless of circumstances.
How to find freedom within
For many people, some form of spiritual practice, such as meditation, can be very helpful. This doesn't have to be religious in any way and can be as simple as taking three breaths with awareness and intent. It is any activity that connects you to your inner heart and the magic of being alive. In this way, you can enter that place where you know yourself as truly free.
Stop and Pay Attention Meditation
Freedom is in every moment, not in the future, not in the past, but right now.
Every so often throughout the day, just stop what you are doing and look around you. Breathe, smell and be aware of this extraordinary world you live in.
Each time you stop, pay attention. Notice how easily your mind takes you into mindless thoughts, dreams and dramas, past or future fantasies—anywhere than just being here now.
Be aware of what is right in front of you and the wonder of it all.
Ed and Deb Shapiro are the authors of Be The Change, How Meditation Can Transform You and the World. They are featured weekly contributors to Oprah.com, HuffingtonPost.com and Care2.com. Ed and Deb write Sprint's The Daily CHILLOUT inspirational text messages. They have three meditation CDs: Metta: Loving Kindness and Forgiveness, Samadhi: Breath Awareness and Insight and Yoga Nidra: Inner Conscious Relaxation. Deb is also the author of the best-selling book Your Body Speaks Your Mind, winner of the 2007 Visionary Book Award.
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