2. Place the crown firmly on your head. You queen up well.

There are rituals for every major milestone in our lives: birth, graduation, marriage, death. Yet there seems to be no satisfying or affirming ritual to mark a woman's passage from the first half of her life to the second half. We'd like to correct that right now.

To become the queen, all you have to do is throw a party. There's no right way or wrong way to have this celebration. It's your party, and we say give yourself permission to have it your way with bratwurst and beer or caviar and champagne. You decide.

However, that said, there are three mandatory things we feel you must do: (1) You must stand up and in full voice declare yourself queen of your own life, (2) you must do it in front of your trusted friends and give them a chance to do it as well and (3) eat cake. Okay, this one is really optional, but what would a coronation be without a cake?

You can have this celebration as many times and as many ways as you want or need. Again, the only way to get it wrong is to not have it at all. So give yourself a crowning party. If not now, when?

1. Pass it on. "Hear ye, hear ye," says the queen.

Now you're officially the queen of your own life. In order to keep your newfound royal status, you must help other women find their power, beauty and happiness by sharing how you found yours. The truth is, we have been keeping a secret from you. You already were the queen of your own life. You just needed a couple of good friends like us to hold up the mirror so that you could see what we see—the best in yourself. Be a good queen and a good friend and go help other women see their best selves. It's good to be queen.

Do you relate to Kathy and Cindy's plight to find happiness in the second half of life? Comment below.

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Kathy Kinney is best known for her iconic role as Mimi Bobeck on The Drew Carey Show. She has acted in over a dozen films, guest-starred on numerous television shows and has toured worldwide with Drew Carey and the Improv All-Stars. Kinney may also be seen in the title role of Mrs. P at, a website for children aimed at keeping the joy of books and reading alive.

A veteran publishing executive,
Cindy Ratzlaff created marketing campaigns for more than 100 New York Times best-selling books, including The South Beach Diet. She is president of Brand New Brand You, which specializes in using new social media platforms to increase brand awareness, and is co-founder of the online publishing company Supreme Social Media.

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