I often feel as if I am just one click away from bliss. It seems like all the vibrant light of the universe is trying to enter my body so it can fill me and then burst back out of my toes, fingers, eyes, knees and even my eyelashes. The only thing that stops me from being this brilliant and joyful in my life is me. Old thoughts of low self-esteem and fear hold me back. Decisions made long ago that helped me then, but are no longer valid, stop me from lighting up like a giant pinwheel and showering sparks of joy into my life and onto the lives of those around me.

I've worked very hard to let go of the things that pull me out of the happiness of the moment. I make the conscious choice each day to be grateful. I'm not a silly, naive optimist. I've been around the block more than a few times, so I know bad things happen. They've happened to me. Yet, I make the choice daily to stay out of worry and live my life finding great joy in the moment. I'm glad I'm not afraid to be called a Pollyanna.

Of course, you can't be happy every moment of life. And don't worry, we're not talking about the kind of euphoric happiness where your face hurts from constantly smiling and people are a bit frightened of you. We're talking about taking the fleeting feeling of "life is good" and, with practice, turning it into the comfortable, steady hum of happiness that becomes the undercurrent of a good life.

You definitely have the skill to discover how to live in the positive. With no formal training and very little thought you've taught yourself to actively be negative. If you make the decision to be happy you will improve the quality of the rest of your life. Spending your precious time in the positive, attracting even more positive, is a great gift to give yourself.

Maybe it helps to look at the idea this way. Negative thought and positive thought attract like-minded thinking into your life. Which one do you want? Because the choice is really yours.

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Kathy Kinney is best known for her iconic role as Mimi Bobeck on The Drew Carey Show. She has acted in more than a dozen films, guest-starred on numerous television shows and toured worldwide with Drew Carey and the Improv All-Stars. Kinney may also be seen in the title role of Mrs. P at, a website for children aimed at keeping the joy of books and reading alive.

A veteran publishing executive,
 Cindy Ratzlaff created marketing campaigns for more than 100 New York Times best-selling books, including The South Beach Diet. She is president of Brand New Brand You, which specializes in using new social media platforms to increase brand awareness, and is co-founder of the online publishing company Supreme Social Media.

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Copyright © 2010 Kathy Kinney & Cindy Ratzlaff, authors of Queen of Your Own Life: The Grown-Up Woman's Guide to Claiming Happiness and Getting the Life You Deserve.


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