Do Be Do Be Do? Make Your To-Be List Before Your To-Do List
Remember how Frank Sinatra sang "Do Be Do Be Do"? Well, Frank's a great crooner—but he's a dyslexic self-help guru. To live your happiest life, you gotta sing "Be Do Be Do Be Do." What happens if you focus on being before doing?Right now, you are probably walking around thinking a variety of things such as:
"I want to make lots of money."
"I want to have lots of loving, loyal friends."
"I want men to find me sexy and appealing."
"I want a wildly happy love life."
Now, to get a lot of money, friends and love, you need to act in a way that attracts more money, friends and love. What qualities do you need to improve to attract more successful life results in your life? Are you being disciplined, organized, warm, loving, patient, self-loving, intuitive, calm, confident, courageous, open-minded, generous and empathic?
Your identity will always determine your destiny. Who you think you are and who you actually are will always affect what you choose to do—and how people and the world at large respond to you.
For this reason, it is very important to write a to-be list every day—even before you write your to-do list. After all, who you think you are will always affect not only what takes the top spots on your to-do list, but even how well you are able to check off your to-dos.
A quickie example: If you value being a good, loving, caring, empathic friend with lots of loving friendships in your life, then you might add in some extra friendship to-dos on your list—checking in with friends regularly to see how they are doing. If you first focus on being a good friend, you may find that you will be extra aware of being warm, loving, patient, intuitive, calm, confident, generous and empathic—and you will wind up attracting the highest quality friendships you can have.
Think about it: If you are more consistently aware of being a kind, honest, loving, patient, communicative and loyal person—as a result, you will then be creating kind, honest, loving, patient and communicative actions in the world—and, in the end, getting the happiest life results possible!
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