Learning to Say No
As Cheryl Richardson explains, your self-care is always a valid excuse to say no. Don't over-explain or defend your decision. Be graceful and honest. You might say something like: "I'm sorry, but it's just not possible for me to do that," or, "I'll have to decline but thank you anyway." As you practice saying no, it will get easier. Start now!
1. For one week, keep track of how many times you say yes to something that is not on your Absolute Yes List.
2. At the end of the week, tally up the number...surprised? Awareness is the first step to realigning your decisions and priorities.
3. Make a list of five things you'd like to say no to. Start by thinking about these questions.
If you could say no to someone or something, knowing that there would be absolutely no hard feelings or negative consequences, who or what would you say no to? Is there a project you would give up? A relationship you would end? A date you might break?
At first, saying no might create some internal guilt. But the tough choices you make today will help you reach a happier place tomorrow. Learn how to overcome guilt in your life.
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