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This is the secret to happiness—in 3 words:
  1. rationalize
  2. rationalize
  3. rationalize
You find it's helpful to lie to yourself about your past pain...and all the rotten things that have happened to you. And it's only fair—since everyone else is lying to you too anyway. Just kidding. Sort of. Well, achem, remember this is a cynic's guide to spiritual happiness.

You decide to see...equals.
Your enemies = your teachers.
Your failure = your wisdom.
Your mistakes = your lucky discoveries.
Your conflicts = your growth opportunities.
Your undesired endings = your desirable beginnings.
Your grapes of wrath = your raisons d'etre.
Your painful feelings = your proud proof that you are dealing with your feelings—head on!

And there's a freebee bonus benefit to doing the above...You begin to be less judgmental about your: rage, fear, pain, conflicts, and disappointments...not only for what has happened in the past but also when it comes to your present and future.