3 Anxiety-Free Ways to Change
However, it is in those very moments when everything looks hopeless that you have a real chance to grow into something better; what the caterpillar calls the end of the world, you call a butterfly!
The journey to such transformation is smoother when you can step back from anger, fear or grief and take a breath, before emotion takes over. Then you can enable the issue to pass, because not even those feelings that seem so enormous, important or overwhelming stay the same. What is vital to you now will lose its relevance with time.
Knowing this means you can be more at ease with change. As thoughts come and go, as you watch emotions rise and fall like waves, as physical, emotional or mental pain is felt and then gone, you see how this coming and going applies to everything, even your breath. This sense of rhythm reminds you that, if you wait long enough, even the darkest of times will also pass.
3 reasons why change is good
Here are three ways that change can uplift and transform you:
- All Things are Coming and Going
Everything that is happening now will change into something else; every thought and feeling, no matter how intense or dramatic, will one day be immaterial. Without change in yourself, you become stifled and stagnant. As nothing lasts forever, so you can appreciate every moment, fully and completely, knowing it will never happen again. Coming to a still place, gently breathe in and out, silently repeating: And this too shall pass.
- Each Day Starts Anew
Just as palm trees transform muddy rainwater into sweet coconut milk, so you have the opportunity to transform fear into courage, selfishness into kindness, and loss into fresh beginnings. Spring is here, with new life bursting forth, and in the same way, you too are capable of creating a new life for yourself in each and every moment. Life is about not having answers and taking chances, all without knowing what is going to happen next. Sitting quietly, breathing deeply and joyfully, silently repeat: I open my mind and heart to new possibilities.
As author Maria Robinson said: "Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending."
- Being Peace
As every wave has both a peak and a descent, the clue to transformation is being able to paddle in the dip so you are ready to ride the next crest. Meditation creates a space where times of pain, sadness, anger, fear, hurt, confusion, doubt and all of your other conflicting emotions can come and be known and gently released. It enables you to be present with whatever is, and to accept, honor and move with change. All kinds of thoughts may arise—or feelings, sensations and images. You watch, without denying, pushing away or holding on. You can comfortably rest in stillness, without any judgment or discrimination.
Just as the breath comes in and out, so it is like the coming and going of all change.
Breathe in and out gently, and watch the natural rhythm of your breath. Silently repeat: May I be easeful, may I be peaceful, may I flow with the changes. And enjoy each moment, as it is a precious gift!
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