3 Ways to Get Stronger Relationships

The Issue: The Thrill is...Going.

The Redo: Change the Vibe.

At the beginning of our marriage, my wife, Robin and I got into the habit of griping about the day's frustrations as soon as we got home from work. After a while, though, I realized that if you discuss only problems with your partner, there's a good chance you'll develop a problem relationship. I'd read that the initial moments of an interaction can set the tone for the rest of the encounter. That's why Robin and I have instituted the First Four Minutes Rule, which prohibits us from complaining until we've spent a few moments together. Even if our house was on fire, we'd probably let 240 seconds elapse before allowing ourselves to mention it. I suggest you take the same approach with your partner. Before you say anything else, tell a funny story, or talk about how much you missed each other. Your first words don't have to be romantic or earth-shattering—just positive.