6 Things I'm Too Scared to Tell My Sister
2. That time I tried to borrow Pardon Me, You're Stepping on My Eyeball! (Or was it Harriet the Spy?) and you made me check it out of your personal "library," complete with hand-stamped return date, I admit I thought you were totally uptight. But then, I used to be the type who didn't return things, who was always late for everything, who was always making excuses. Eventually, I began to realize what you'd somehow always known and were possibly trying to teach me that day—that leading a responsible life also makes for a happy life. And that drama is less exciting than it is stressful.
3. I know you think I'm unnaturally obsessed with skincare. However, a microscopic dollop of moisturizer on your index finger, applied to your face, is not enough! At our age, you need to slather it on—nightly. And while I know your "to-do" list is long, there's simply no reason for you to be walking around with chaffed cheeks on your very pretty face.
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5. I still feel bad about the embarrassing toast I gave at your wedding. I didn't mean to suggest that the groom liked to wear disco jackets made of satin. (I just needed something to rhyme with the word "Manhattan.") And I was just trying—maybe too hard—to be funny. I realize now that it wasn't the time or place, especially with your academic advisor sitting in the front row.
6. By being such a high achiever, you inspired me to try harder. By allowing me to lean on and look up to you, you taught me how to be independent and stand up for myself. And by making fun of me at every opportunity, you taught me to laugh at myself. Which is all to say: even as I've purposefully carved out a different life than the one you have—namely, one that requires me to leave the house as infrequently as possible, while you circumnavigate the globe, attend conferences and give talks—you remain my role model and guide in all matters to do with life, love and, most importantly, friendship.
Lucinda Rosenfeld is the author of The Pretty One: A Novel About Sisters and I'm So Happy For You.
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