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Do the 4-Step High Five
The next time he gets a promotion, invents a new marinade for the grill or wins first prize at the adults-only spelling bee, do more than say, "Hooray, Honey!" As this handy graphic from the self-improvement website Happify.com explains, couples who celebrated each other's successes in four steps—showing enthusiasm ("A spelling bee! Honey, that's so cool!"); asking questions ("So, 'babushka' counted even though it's Russian?"); expressing congratulations ("!!!"); and, reliving the moment with them ("So, what exactly went through your mind when you heard psychoneuroendocrinological?")—strengthened their relationship. Further research proved that "people who did this three times a day for one week improved their happiness." And happiness, as we know—scientific studies or not—usually leads to a lot of more happily ever afters.


Leigh Newman is the deputy editor at Oprah.com and the author of Still Points North: One Alaskan Childhood, One Grown Up World, One Long Journey Home.