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My husband and I have been married for 13 years. We had a great sexual relationship until my younger son was born. I'm 48 years old, he's 43 years old. I have no sexual desire what so ever. We haven't had relations for probably 9 years now. We have tried a few times but unfortunately, nothing! A few ideas I've had: My parents gave us the idea that sex was bad and now that I'm older, I think I unconsciously lean that way, I'm very conservative. I am overloaded with things to do and like on the show: I would love for someone to make all the decisions for a day or more. I'd love a break! I could care less, and prefer if I never had sex ever again. Please help as I know my husband is suffering.
— tvlr000
 

Tvlr000, thanks for writing. So many women share your struggle with that post-partum low libido. You've got the exhaustion, crazy stress, juggling, relationship adjustments and hormonal changes, especially since you are in your 40s. Many women experience post-partum androgen deficiency syndrome where their testosterone levels drop after having a baby (or two) and then don't recover. So definitely get your total and free testosterone checked and get off any hormonal contraceptives you are on. Those will do a number on your libido as well.

Beyond the medical it does seem that you and your husband could use a jump start to get back on the same page and to help stimulate the passion again. This is where sex therapy comes in. You are more than welcome to come to the Berman Center. Just check out our website. We have intensive retreats where couples come from all over the country for 3-5 days and leave their lives behind to focus on their relationship. This would be a great program for you. If you can't make the trip to Chicago you should definitely find someone in your own community who can work with you. The sooner the better so that this issue won't take more of a toll on your relationship. Good luck!
As a reminder, always consult your doctor for medical advice and treatment before starting any program.

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