- Step back and give them time to develop their new identity as a couple.
- Allow her to establish the roots of her new marriage/commitment and understand that this is an important part of a healthy transition.
- Accept and enjoy your new status as the second, rather than the first, "go-to" person in your daughter's life.
- Don't get in the middle of arguments or disputes between your daughter and her spouse/partner.
Excerpted from Too Close for Comfort? Questioning the Intimacy of Today's New Mother-Daughter Relationship by Linda Perlman Gordon and Susan Morris Shaffer © 2009 by Linda Perlman Gordon and Susan Morris Shaffer. Excerpted by permission of The Berkley Publishing Group, a division of Penguin Group (USA) Inc. All rights reserved. No part of this excerpt may be reproduced or reprinted without permission in writing from the publisher.