Happy Hours: Three Ways to End Your Day on a Happy Note!
Photo: Hemera Technologies/Thinkstock
With yourself: Rerun The Happy Days
With your friends: Enforce the -Ings—Chilling, Hanging, Relaxing
With your partner: Be Intimate, Even If You're Not in the Mood
Photo: Comstock Images/Thinkstock
For me it was picking berries with my mom. We'd go to those family farms where you pick the berries yourself and take home your bounty. She'd always tell the farmers: "Better weigh my daughter on the way in and on the way out so you can charge for all the berries she eats out there!"
Having berries on hand makes me happy—fresh from the farmers market, frozen when that's not possible, and picked ourselves when ripe on the berry plants we have at home. When I really need a lift, it's off to the pick-your-own-fruit farm with my family to pass on the good times and the good-health tradition!
The importance of chilling, hanging and relaxing
Remove yourself from isolation and resist all temptations to fuss over the little things—like stressing over parking, schedules or whatever roadblocks keep you from being with your friends. The act can be as simple as watching the world go by from your front porch, a sidewalk cafe or a park bench. I go for talk therapy via a lazy game of dominoes while chopping up some end-of-day chit-chat. Just enough distraction to take my mind away from anything serious. I have a few travel sets of the game and have taken up collecting and giving sets of "bones" (the nickname for dominoes) to friends and family.
Be intimate, even if you're not in the mood
Here's what Dr. Reiss suggests for getting in the habit of being intimate every day.
Reconsider your Bedtime Rituals
Some people read books, some watch TV, but be sure to end with five or 10 minutes of intimacy. It can be massage or light touching, and if it leads to more, then follow it. If you drift off, just breathing close to each other, then you still have made an intimate connection.
Make Sex a Habit
We do many things because we think we simply must do them, like check email or drive across town for a latte, but we don't do what's right under our nose (well not right-right under). The key is to add intimacy to the must-do list and make it a regular part of your routine. You'll sleep better and wake up with a pure, deeper smile—one that's infectious...like wildfire!
Download the latest chapter of Allana's new book, Get Social
More from Allana Baroni
10 social skills everyone can master
How to stay close when you're apart
No high heels required: 7 ideas for spontaneous fun