Spiritual author Eckhart Tolle says that when someone criticizes you, blames you or calls you a name, you shouldn't retaliate or defend yourself. What should you do instead? Nothing, he says. By allowing your ego to shrink, Eckhart says, you will find something far greater hidden underneath. Watch the videos above as he and other spiritual luminaries, including author Mark Nepo and relationship guru Iyanla Vanzant, provide the keys to learning to love yourself.