By Marie Forleo
172 pages; McGraw-Hill
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Irresistibility 101

Have you ever had the feeling that you were meant for great things? As a little girl, did you know you had something special to express into the world? Many of us have lost touch with our whimsical, feminine dreams of greatness in exchange for a more driven, masculine take on success. Without even knowing it, we’ve been enlisted on a mission: to prove we can do it as well as, or better than, the men. We are all so desperate to attain what we imagine will make us equal and happy (a successful career, marriage, family, 2.2 kids) that we forget who we really are: brilliant, sexy, and magical beings like no other.

We've forgotten that our power lies not in competing with or trying to be like men but in embracing our natural and womanly strengths of compassion, enchantment, and tenderness. We are intuitive healers and masterful lovers. Our hearts run deep with emotion, and we cast a wide net for spiritual truth. Our sexuality and feminine wiles inspire, enliven, and empower. We are remarkable.

The world is in desperate need of irresistible women: women who are willing to be enthusiastic, alive, and expressive—regardless of the circumstance; women who are not afraid to tell their truth or speak up for what they believe in; women who feel at ease being intelligent, sensual, and compassionate all at once; women who do not compete with, demean, or do battle against men (or other women) but who see everyone for who they really are—fellow human beings also in search of a great life, in search of love.

Let's face it: love is all we really want. Although we strive for the right clothes, the right hair, the right body, the right job, the right relationship, what we really want is to know someone loves us and everything's going to be OK.

You know what? You are loved and you are OK right now. Everything else is an illusion. Worry, regret, and anxiety are all mental constructions called up by our minds to distract us from the terrifying realization that underneath it all, we're just fine. As we relax and embrace our own OKness, we unlock our irresistibility. Our dreams surge back into our hearts, and our spirits are free to soar once again. Without so much energy tied up in our imagined neuroses, we have the time and energy to reengage with our purpose and once again make a difference in our world. You are an extraordinary woman. You have a purpose in this world, and hiding behind a fictional story that you're broken or incomplete is not it. The world needs you. It needs that very special something you knew you had when you were a little girl. Claiming your irresistibility is the key to fulfilling your potential as a woman and as a human being. It's the secret to making the impact on the world you were meant to make. Women who embrace their irresistibility hold the heart of the world.

Your Irresistibility Lies in the Present Moment

Take a deep breath and let your shoulders melt down. Relax your jaw and ease into the moment. Allow yourself simply to be here. Forget about your to-do lists. Let go of wandering thoughts of what you might have for dinner or regrets about what you didn't get done today at work.

Your ability to be completely irresistible and make every man want you lies in the present moment. When you are fully present (meaning your full attention is in "the now"), you access the infinite source of beauty and aliveness inherent in every living creature. You become one with the cosmic intelligence and timeless magnificence of all that is.

On a physiological level, being present means that you stop going on mental vacations and actively engage your mind, body, and soul in whatever you are doing in this moment. You let go of thoughts about the past and worries about the future and bring your full attention to whatever, or whoever, is in front of you right now. In the context of reading this book, being present means giving your full, undivided attention to "hearing" the words on the page as you read them.

Here's a nugget of wisdom that can transform your life in an instant. Ready?

You are not your mind.

You have a mind, but you are not your mind. You are also not the conversation you have with yourself in your mind. You may be thinking, "What conversation? What is she talking about?" That one! Of course, you may be thinking, "Well then, who am I?" Who you are is a glorious being behind your mind. You are the awareness, the observer, the listener. You are the wise, elegant, generous, and loving consciousness that knows exactly what I'm talking about right now.

Know this, too: your irresistibility is greatest when you're present and disengaged from your mental chatter. That's because the fullness and glory of your being is showing through. Your being is your highest self and grandest expression of who you are. It is timeless and beautiful, full of love, compassion, forgiveness, and sensuality. It nothing and seeks no approval. It is who you really are beneath all of the worry, concern, and fear.

Your mind, on the other hand, is a past/future fear-based machine that is primarily concerned with survival. It's always comparing, analyzing, scheming, and talking to you about what you need to do in order to become better, prettier, more successful, or more attractive. The mind is usually not supportive of your irresistibility. It likes to talk about your mistakes and how bad, unattractive, stupid, or unworthy you are. (By the way, none of those things your mind talks to you about are actually true, but unless you become aware that you are not your mind, you believe them to be true.)

The real truth is that it doesn't matter how many mistakes you've made in the past or how many relationships have not worked out. It also doesn't matter how much you weigh, how old you are, or what you do for a living. You can be absolutely irresistible starting right now.

Become irresistible by reading Make Every Man Want You by Marie Forleo, available wherever books are sold. (McGraw-Hill, 2008, print 978-0-07-159781-4, ebook 978-0-07-159782-1, $16.95) Find Marie at www.MarieForleo.com!