You are not your mind.

You have a mind, but you are not your mind. You are also not the conversation you have with yourself in your mind. You may be thinking, "What conversation? What is she talking about?" That one! Of course, you may be thinking, "Well then, who am I?" Who you are is a glorious being behind your mind. You are the awareness, the observer, the listener. You are the wise, elegant, generous, and loving consciousness that knows exactly what I'm talking about right now.

Know this, too: your irresistibility is greatest when you're present and disengaged from your mental chatter. That's because the fullness and glory of your being is showing through. Your being is your highest self and grandest expression of who you are. It is timeless and beautiful, full of love, compassion, forgiveness, and sensuality. It nothing and seeks no approval. It is who you really are beneath all of the worry, concern, and fear.

Your mind, on the other hand, is a past/future fear-based machine that is primarily concerned with survival. It's always comparing, analyzing, scheming, and talking to you about what you need to do in order to become better, prettier, more successful, or more attractive. The mind is usually not supportive of your irresistibility. It likes to talk about your mistakes and how bad, unattractive, stupid, or unworthy you are. (By the way, none of those things your mind talks to you about are actually true, but unless you become aware that you are not your mind, you believe them to be true.)

The real truth is that it doesn't matter how many mistakes you've made in the past or how many relationships have not worked out. It also doesn't matter how much you weigh, how old you are, or what you do for a living. You can be absolutely irresistible starting right now.

Become irresistible by reading Make Every Man Want You by Marie Forleo, available wherever books are sold. (McGraw-Hill, 2008, print 978-0-07-159781-4, ebook 978-0-07-159782-1, $16.95) Find Marie at!