1. Be clear about your own sexual values and attitudes.

Communicating with your children about sex, love, and relationships is often more successful when you are certain in your own mind about these issues. To help clarify your attitudes and values, think about the following kinds of questions:
  • What do you really think about school-aged teenagers being sexually active - and perhaps even becoming parents?
  • Who is responsible for setting sexual limits in a relationship and how is that done, realistically?
  • Were you sexually active as a teenager and how do you feel about that now? Were you sexually active before you were married? What do such reflections lead you to say to your own children about these issues?
  • What do you think about encouraging teenagers to abstain from sex?
  • What do you think about teenagers using contraception?