Shelby Reveals His Suicidal Thoughts

Season 4 Episode 411
Aired on 04/15/2017 | CC
After telling Iyanla about the trauma of his childhood molestation, Shelby "Soullow" Lowery lies with his head cradled in Iyanla's lap and confesses that his inner darkness has left him drained and exhausted as an adult. "I don't want to be here no more," he says, breaking into tears. "I want to give up."

"Shelby, it is unkind and unloving to expect yourself to be able to do something that you don't know how to do, that no one ever taught you to do," Iyanla says. "It's not that you want to die, Shelby; it's that you've never been taught how to live. You've never been taught how to live, baby. You've been taught how to survive."

Watch as Iyanla comforts Shelby and addresses the issue of depression among African-American men.

If you or someone you know needs help, call 800-273-8255 for the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. You can also text "CONNECT" to 741741 to reach counselors from the Crisis Text Line.