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Iyanla: Change Your Life by Asking Yourself This Question

Season 5 Episode 507
Aired on 03/17/2018 | CC tv-14
According to Iyanla, men undergo an "awakening" from ages 33 to 35, a turning point where they get to choose the direction they want their adult lives to go. The five Mitchell brothers she's working with are all around or approaching this turning point, so Iyanla asks the youngest of the men, 28-year-old Melvin, a pointed question: What does he really want in life?

With Iyanla's coaching, Melvin experiences an emotional breakthrough and realizes that what he wants most of all is acceptance and love. Iyanla says answering this powerful question can help guide anyone on the rest of their journey.

"All I did was ask you what you want. That's why it's important in the moment—when that anger comes up, you've got to hear life saying to you, 'What do you want?'" Iyanla says. "That's how we all get to change our lives."

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