Debi Thomas to Iyanla: "I Did the Best I Could"

Season 3 Episode 313
Aired on 11/07/2015 | CC
Iyanla travels to a small town in Virginia to work with former Olympic figure skater Debi Thomas. Debi was an Olympic medalist who went on to become an orthopedic surgeon, but then, her life took a turn for the worse. Divorce, unemployment and bankruptcy left her living in a bug-infested trailer with her fiancé and his two young sons.

While working to get a better understanding of what has gone wrong, Iyanla realizes that Debi may be her own worst enemy. The two have a deep discussion about Debi's personal triumphs and tragedies, as well as her failed relationship with her son.

While standing outside her trailer home, Debi leans on Iyanla for support during an emotional breakthrough. "You don't have to do it by yourself this time," Iyanla tells Debi. "And you didn't do anything wrong."

"I did the best I could," Debi says. "I feel like I'm hurting people that I care about."

Iyanla tells Debi that the person she's hurting the most is herself. "You can't help anybody until you can help you," Iyanla says.

Watch their tearful exchange in the above video.

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