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Family & Generational Healing

A Daughter Finds Out She's Been Friends with Her Mother's Rapist

From Iyanla, Fix My Life
Season 4 | Episode 416
Aired on 05/13/2017 | CC
For 19 years, six sisters and their mother, Alicia, have avoided being in the same room together, fueling the dysfunction and misunderstandings that have all but ruined their relationship. In order for these women to make any progress as a family, Iyanla says, they must be willing to stand in their own truth—and speak it aloud.

Alicia has experienced her own traumas and hurdles in the past, but not even her eldest daughter, Shay, is aware of much of it. With Iyanla's support, Alicia tells Shay the secret she's been keeping for decades: She was molested as young girl.

As Shay processes this information, Alicia then says that her rapist is a family member with whom Shay remains close. Shay begins to sob. "[I'm] mad at the both of them," she tells Iyanla. "And I'm sad 'cause he's my friend."

Watch as Iyanla helps Shay work through her feelings of betrayal.

Iyanla's work with this family concludes in Part 3 of the special three-part episode, airing Saturday, May 20, at 9 p.m. ET.

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Published 05/13/2017
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