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The Work: "Fix My Rap Star Life"

This week's episode of Iyanla: Fix My Life deals with a son who wants to reestablish a relationship with his father, who is allegedly struggling with addiction. To do that, he has to have the hardest conversation he's ever had with his dad.' 'Use this study guide to set the groundwork for a hard conversation that you need to have in your life.

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Think back to a time when you wanted to talk to someone about something they did not want to discuss. Describe the conversation or situation below.

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Write down two things you thought or felt about the person during or after the conversation.

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How did that conversation make you feel about yourself?

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How did the conversation affect your relationship with that person?

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Is there anything you think you could have done to make the conversation go better?

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Now, think about a time when someone attempted to talk to you about something you did not want to discuss.

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Write down two things you thought or felt about that person during or after the conversation.

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How did that conversation make you feel about yourself?

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How did that conversation affect your relationship with that person?

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Is there anything you wished that person would have done to make the conversation go better?

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Now, describe a time when someone spoke to you about a difficult topic with compassion.

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How did you feel after the conversation?

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Keeping in mind the feelings you described above, describe the conversation you want to have with someone about a difficult topic or situation.

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What is the outcome you're hoping for? Be willing to ask for what you want.

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With that best-case scenario in mind, what do you believe is keeping you from having the conversation?

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Use the space below to clarify how you can invite the other person to the conversation.

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Whether it's no name-calling or simply turning off all phones, list three ground rules for the conversation.

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Write down three reasons this is an important relationship in your life. Also, write down three things you love most about the other person. Remember these if the conversation gets difficult, and use them to inspire you to speak with compassion.

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